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Attachment Based Relationship Tips
Looking to strengthen your relationship? Our blog offers expert relationship tips rooted in attachment theory and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Learn how to identify your attachment style, communicate more effectively, and foster emotional safety with your partner. From overcoming conflict to building deeper trust, our practical advice and tools, created by couples therapist Julie Menanno, are designed to help you move toward a secure and fulfilling connection. Dive in and start transforming your relationships today!
Validation: The Key to Emotional Connection
Validation is the foundation of emotional safety in relationships. Learn how to practice validation to strengthen connection, improve communication, and create a deeper bond with your partner.
Navigating Relationship Challenges: Answers to Common Questions
Understand how attachment styles, boundaries, and emotional security shape your relationships. Learn how to distinguish between anxious fears and intuition, repair negative cycles, and move forward with clarity.
Resolve Conflict Using the D.E.A.R M.A.N. Method
Learn how the D.E.A.R M.A.N. method can help you express yourself clearly, set boundaries, and resolve conflict while maintaining emotional connection in your relationship.
How Do Secure Partners Do That?
Securely attached partners communicate effectively, regulate emotions, and maintain strong boundaries while fostering connection. Learn how these behaviors create thriving relationships.
Why Do Disorganized Partners Do That?
Disorganized attachment can make relationships feel unpredictable and overwhelming. Learn how survival strategies formed in childhood impact adult relationships and discover steps for healing.
Why Do Avoidant Attached Partners Do That?
Understanding why avoidant partners engage in behaviors like appeasing, shutting down, or defending themselves is key to breaking negative cycles. Learn how to transform these behaviors and build a more secure relationship.
Why Do Those with Anxious Attachment Do That?
Anxious attachment behaviors often stem from deep fears of abandonment. Learn why these behaviors feel safe and how to shift toward healthier relationship patterns.
Common Experience of Avoidant Partners: Fear of Conflict
Avoidant partners often struggle with emotions, both within themselves and in relationships. Learn how to reconnect with your emotions and build deeper connections.
Things to Know About Your Relationship And Sex
Sexual intimacy offers numerous physical and psychological benefits, but a healthy emotional connection is the foundation of a fulfilling sex life. Learn how to nurture intimacy and address challenges in your relationship.
How Does Attachment Play a Part in Long Distance Relationships?
Long-distance relationships bring attachment needs into sharp focus. Learn how to strengthen security in your relationship before focusing on the logistics of managing distance.
When I'm Sorry Isn't Enough: Repairing Trust Beyond Apology
Saying 'I’m sorry' isn’t always enough. Learn how to truly repair trust by understanding, validating, and committing to change in your relationship.
Insecure Attachment Styles and How They Keep You Stuck
Anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles often keep partners stuck in negative cycles. Learn how to break free by improving communication, self-awareness, and emotional regulation.
Common Experience of Anxious Partners: The Sense of Over Responsibility
Many anxious partners struggle with over responsibility, feeling the need to control everything to feel safe. Learn how to balance expectations, release control, and build a healthier relationship dynamic.
Being Emotionally Supportive is NOT the Same as Being Your Partner's Therapist
Being emotionally supportive in a relationship is a skill that can be learned by both partners, not just a job for therapists. Discover how emotional support and engagement can be practiced to strengthen your connection.
Relationship Trigger Toolbox: Handle Emotional Reactions
Learn how to handle relationship triggers with self-reflection, regulation, empathy, and effective communication. Use the Relationship Trigger Tool-Box to break negative cycles and foster emotional safety in your relationship.
How Both Avoidant AND Anxious Partners Block Emotional Intimacy
Both avoidant and anxious partners block emotional intimacy in unique but equally intense ways. By understanding these dynamics, couples can begin to break the negative cycle and build a more secure, emotionally connected relationship.
Healthy Assertion vs. Reactive Anger
Reactive anger can trigger negative cycles in relationships. Learn how healthy assertion can shift communication, promote emotional safety, and create space for understanding and compromise.
Your “Window of Tolerance”
Your window of tolerance is your internal safe space for emotional balance. Learn how to find and stay in this space to improve your well-being, regulate emotions, and build healthier relationships.
Spiraling Higher Podcast
If you have ever been in a relationship, or supported someone in one, then you KNOW how distressing it is to deal with feeling like your partner doesn't care about your feelings OR as if their feelings are TOO MUCH.
Is It Time to Seek Professional Support for Your Relationship?
Are you caught in repetitive arguments, facing trust issues, or feeling distant from your partner? Explore how couples coaching can provide the professional support needed to rebuild trust, connection, and intimacy.
In this session, we explore what it really means to “expect too much” in a relationship. Julie talks about how sometimes, without realizing it, we lean too heavily on our partner to manage emotions we haven’t yet learned to hold ourselves. This can show up as constant venting, needing endless reassurance, or expecting our partner to join us in unhealthy ways of coping.... like over controlling, avoiding, or shutting down.