Attachment-Friendly Boundaries Sound Like This
Attachment-Friendly Boundaries Sound Like This
In a secure relationship, boundaries don’t threaten connection—they protect it.
Attachment-friendly boundaries are rooted in:
Closeness
Emotional safety
Mutual care
The belief that both partners matter
Instead of withdrawing or blaming, these boundaries express a need while protecting the relationship.
"You and this relationship mean everything to me. That's why I have to walk away when you say something mean; it's my way of protecting what we have."
“I can’t feel safe and close to you when I can’t trust your words. Something needs to change.”
“I know how much you need to be heard, and I can handle you telling me about your anger. But I can’t hear you when it’s coming at me in a condescending tone. I need to feel respected in order to be open to you. Can we try it differently?”
Support for Practicing Boundaries with Care
Relationship Coaching – Learn how to communicate your boundaries without disconnecting
Understanding Shame Workshop – Work through the guilt and fear that often makes boundary-setting difficult
Couple and Individual Group – Get live support and practice setting boundaries in real time
“Attachment-friendly boundaries don’t shut your partner out—they protect the connection between you.”
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