Unraveling the Roots of the Negative Cycle Pt. 1

In this episode of the Secure Love Podcast, we dive into Part 1 of a compelling two-part series exploring deep-rooted challenges in Melissa and Drew's relationship. Reflecting on last week's chaos when Drew returned to a patio strewn with toys, Melissa revisits her feelings of frustration. She was ready to support Drew, but his withdrawn demeanor left her feeling helpless and disconnected.

This moment of disconnect isn't isolated—it harks back to a critical time in their relationship when their son was hospitalized in the ICU, a situation fraught with stress and uncertainty. During this intense period, Drew had just started a new job, adding another layer of strain. Melissa feels they've never fully recovered from this emotional distance that began then.

In this episode, Julie works with Melissa to identify and dissect these cycles of disconnect and triggering events that trace back to their past. It's a deep dive into the origins of their attachment clashes, revealing how past traumas continue to influence their present interactions.

Next week, in Part 2, we'll be joined by guest therapist George Faller, one of Julie's long-standing colleagues, who will provide further analysis from Drew's perspective.

Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle with your partner that seems to echo past conflicts? How do you navigate the complex interplay of past and present in your relationships? Join us as we explore these questions, offering insights and reflections that might just resonate with your own experiences. Tune in to unravel the roots of Melissa and Drew's challenges and find keys to fostering a deeper connection.

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Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC

Julie Menanno, MA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, and Relationship Coach. She earned her Master’s degree in Psychology from Phillips Graduate Institute in Los Angeles, CA. Julie operates a clinical therapy practice in Bozeman, Montana, and leads a global relationship coaching practice with a team of trained coaches. She is an expert in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples and specializes in attachment issues within relationships.

Julie is the author of the best-selling book Secure Love, published by Simon and Schuster in January 2024. She provides relationship insights to nearly 1 million Instagram followers and hosts The Secure Love Podcast, where she shares real-time couples coaching sessions to help listeners navigate relational challenges. Julie also hosts a bi-weekly discussion group on relationship and self-help topics. A sought-after public speaker and podcast guest, Julie is dedicated to helping individuals and couples foster secure, fulfilling relationships.

Julie lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband of 22 years, their six children, and their beloved dog. In her free time, she enjoys hiking, skiing, Pilates, reading psychology books, and studying Italian.

https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/
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