Take me Out to the Ballgame: Navigating Attachment Fears and Finding Co-Regulation

In this episode of the Secure Love Podcast, Melissa and Drew find themselves caught in a familiar struggle at a baseball game with their kids. Drew checks out, feeling overwhelmed, leaving Melissa to handle the kids alone. Sound familiar?

Julie helps the couple dive into the heart of their issues. Melissa opens up about the crushing weight of feeling like a failure and the panic of being left to manage everything alone, even when Drew is right there. Meanwhile, Drew's avoidant behavior, driven by his fear of shame and failure, only pushes Melissa further into anxiety and desperation.

Can you relate to Melissa's urgent texts, pleading for connection? Or maybe you see yourself in Drew, needing to retreat when things get too intense? Julie guides them through these tough moments, helping them understand the deeper fears driving their actions and how they can start supporting each other better.

Tune in to see how Melissa and Drew continue to break their negative cycle, and discover practical insights that might just help you and your partner navigate similar struggles. This episode is all about understanding each other’s needs and finding new ways to connect, even when things get tough.

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Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC

Julie Menanno, MA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, and Relationship Coach. She earned her Master’s degree in Psychology from Phillips Graduate Institute in Los Angeles, CA. Julie operates a clinical therapy practice in Bozeman, Montana, and leads a global relationship coaching practice with a team of trained coaches. She is an expert in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples and specializes in attachment issues within relationships.

Julie is the author of the best-selling book Secure Love, published by Simon and Schuster in January 2024. She provides relationship insights to nearly 1 million Instagram followers and hosts The Secure Love Podcast, where she shares real-time couples coaching sessions to help listeners navigate relational challenges. Julie also hosts a bi-weekly discussion group on relationship and self-help topics. A sought-after public speaker and podcast guest, Julie is dedicated to helping individuals and couples foster secure, fulfilling relationships.

Julie lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband of 22 years, their six children, and their beloved dog. In her free time, she enjoys hiking, skiing, Pilates, reading psychology books, and studying Italian.

https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/
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