From Insecure to Secure:

If you're new to all of this, the best place to begin is with the Attachment 101 Course. It’s designed for anyone who wants to understand how attachment styles affect relationships. You’ll learn how to recognize your own patterns and what might be getting in the way of secure, healthy connections.

Who Should Take This Course: Anyone curious about why they feel stuck in relationships or looking to better understand their emotional patterns.

When to Move On: Once you’ve taken the Attachment Style Quiz (included in the course) and started recognizing your attachment style in real life.

Next, grab a copy of Julie Menanno’s bestselling book, "Secure Love." This book is packed with wisdom and practical tools to help you deepen your understanding of attachment and your role in your relationship. It guides you through why negative cycles occur, how to improve communication using effective scripts, and ways to build emotional safety and intimacy with your partner.

Who Should Read This: Anyone ready to take a deeper dive into their relationship patterns and attachment style.

When to Move On: Once you’ve explored the exercises and tools in the book and feel ready to address more specific challenges or dive deeper into emotional work.

Now’s a great time to focus on deeper emotional challenges, like shame. The Understanding Shame Workshop is perfect for exploring how shame can hold you back from feeling confident or connected. This workshop is interactive, so you’ll leave with practical tools to start shifting these patterns.

Who Should Take This Course: Anyone struggling with feelings of not being "enough" or noticing shame comes up in their relationships.

When to Move On: Once you’ve started using the tools from the workshop and are noticing small shifts in how you approach vulnerability and connection.

Join Julie’s Group for bi-weekly meetings on all kinds of relationship topics. Whether you join live or listen to recordings (there are over 100 hours of past sessions), it’s a great way to stay consistent with your growth. Julie shares insights, answers questions, and gives you actionable ideas you can apply right away.

Who Should Attend This Group: Anyone who wants to stay connected to the work and dive into specific topics. It’s especially helpful for people who enjoy learning in a group setting.

When to Move On: Stay as long as it feels helpful! If you notice a particular area where you’re stuck or need personalized support, it might be time to explore coaching sessions.

Once you’re feeling more confident with your self-awareness, start focusing on your relationship. Listening to The Secure Love Podcast is a great way to see how other couples work through challenges. You’ll hear real examples of how Julie helps couples navigate tough spots and build connection.

Who Should Tune In: Couples or individuals who want inspiration and practical examples of what growth looks like in real relationships.

When to Move On: If you’re inspired by the podcast but need help applying the same tools to your situation, consider working with a coach for more tailored guidance.

At this point, working directly with one of our coaches can make a huge difference. They’ll help you and/or your partner focus on specific challenges and build on everything you’ve learned so far.

Who Should Schedule Sessions: Anyone who feels stuck, overwhelmed, or just wants a more personalized approach to their growth.

When to Move On: Your coach will work with you to track your progress and determine the right steps based on your unique situation.

Growth is a lifelong process, so it’s important to stay connected to resources that help you maintain progress. Keep attending Julie’s Group, revisit the Attachment 101 and Shame Courses, and check out new workshops as they become available.

Who Should Do This: Everyone! Whether you’re just starting or already feeling more secure, ongoing support keeps things fresh and helps you tackle new challenges as they come up.

Quick Tip: If you’re looking for advice on a specific topic, check out our blog—it’s packed with helpful insights to guide you at every stage of your journey.